You always dream of the day you will finish school when you are still in school. You dream of the free life after; of the job you will get; of the friends you will make, of places you will visit…all because you will be making money and decisions on your own. To some people it happens as such. To others, it’s not the case. I was the latter.
I have always been cared for. Everything that was needed for me to live day by day was done. Every decision was made before I even think I needed it. Parents have always made sure that I lack nothing. I was never prepared for the life on my own. Little did I know that this was a different terrain. I was never prepared for getting the transport fee on my own, for getting my hair done on my own, for buying clothes on my own. Getting everything on my own. And by my own I mean in my own money that I earned myself.
After graduating I spent a good time looking for a job. This isn’t as easy as walking in a supermarket and getting your favorite juice. I applied here and there without a feedback. Once it came, my email box was filled with rejection replies. I did exams to which I nailed for me to get 20%. I reached to people. I attended networking events. Job hunting hurts. When I finally secured a job, that night I sat on my bed and cried. In my journal entry I wrote down how grateful I am to God and an advice to my younger self. I wrote a list of things I wish I knew before I graduate. I promised myself that when I get my own children I won’t raise their expectations that when they reach 18, things will be better and easier. In fact, it does get complicated. I hope that if it’s a girl, she won’t be neglected because her beauty comes before her intelligence; I hope she won’t be asked to give sexual advances for her to secure a job. If it’s a boy I hope he won’t be challenged by his identity and role confusion.
This week, I will be writing, on getting a job and keeping it, starting your own business, side hustling and more; from my own experience. If you are still in university, or high school, and looking forward the day you will start working, my advice is simple. Get good grades and know people in the field you want to work in. Those two will get you far. If good grades don’t open doors for you, people will do.
Cover picture by Emma