Author: Rachel Hollis | Hardcover: 240 pages | ISBN-13: 978-1400201655
Have you ever been told that you’re not good enough, that you can’t lose weight, that you won’t get that dream job and therefore should settle? Have you ever believed that you don’t amount to anything? That you deserve to be treated badly?
Well, you’re not the only one. Millions of women tell themselves these lies every day – and they believe in them. But when it comes down to it, there is one simple truth in which you have to believe. You – and you alone – are in control of your life. And you have the power to follow your dreams.
I have read this book three times and it’s became like a mantra in my everyday life. It had me examine myself and get to be aware of who I truly am and recognize the lies that I’ve been told and came to accept. I’m on a growth journey now and I’m looking forward the day I’ll say to myself: I’m happy, I’m contented, I made it.
Here are some ideas I got from the book which are helping now and I hope they help you too. And please get the book and read it for yourself.
•There’s no particular thing that will make you happy. Stop comparing yourself to others. The only person you need to be better than is the one you were yesterday. Also find out what makes you happy and do just that.
Stop being hard on yourself for the things you haven’t achieved yet. God has perfect timing and it’s highly possible that by not being where you thought you should be, you’ll end up exactly where you are meant to go. Set goals to achieve your dreams. And remember what matters is working on them not setting time limits.
•The difficult seasons we pass through are how we build up strength to handle situations. Having a drink is the easiest way out but doesn’t solve a thing. Maybe for you the “drink” is prescription pills or food or pornography.. take a look at your life. I want you to ask yourself if you are pushing to find strength or if you’re reaching for a quick fix. Strength is never easy to come by. The process is often painful, and it takes time—often way longer than anyone expects it to. But fighting through those times is how you get tougher; it’s how you become the person you were meant to be.
-Learning about new habits. Turns out, so many of our negative behaviors—drinking, smoking, etc.—are long-engrained habits triggered by a specific cue. By identifying your cue, you could replace it with a better coping mechanism.
-Acknowledge your reality. You’re never going to move past a problem if you can’t even admit to having it in the first place.
-Removing the temptation. If you’re struggling with how much you drink, remove access to alcohol. Obviously real struggles run so much deeper than simply having access, but it’s much easier to fall into those temptations if they’re sitting right in front of you.
•To grow in your career and life you will need to take steps and set goals and ways to achieve them. But oftentimes, we break the promises we make to ourselves. To see how damaging this is, let’s take a look from a different perspective.
Consider a hypothetical friend. We can call her Pam. Every time you make a plan with Pam to do something important together, she cancels on you at the last moment. And to make it worse, she usually has a completely pathetic excuse like, “I’d love to play tennis with you like we agreed, but this Netflix show I’m watching is so good. I need to watch another episode.” Pam is always claiming to be starting a diet. But a couple of days later, you find her washing down a pizza with a large coke.
Most likely, you’d pretty quickly get irritated and unimpressed with Pam, right?
But this is exactly how you are treating yourself when you break your promises. And it is, because when you keep making and then breaking promises to yourself, you are letting yourself down every time.
So try to form a habit of keeping your promises. You can make it easier by keeping them realistic. Keep at it, and you’ll train your mind to keep your promises. You’ll build a new, higher expectation for yourself, that will make it easier to keep future promises and achieve your goals.
•Your dreams are yours alone to live and achieve. You shouldn’t wait for someone’s approval to make them happen. People will discourage you on your journey but that shouldn’t stop you. Don’t take no for an answer. Also big things take time. Be patient enough for the process and the time your dream will take.